Etiquette Conduct Review 7 - Self-Righteous

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Good day to you, beautiful people~! Hope things are going well for you.

Sadly, I have a cold at the moment, but at least I completed my major assignment! :'D 

Yet sadly, this little journal series stirs up to lucky number seven! The reason why? Well, while I was at uni, a friend of mine exposed an asshole on YouTube, and well, another asshole pops up and just basically gives her some self-righteous shit.

And let me tell you something - if you try and mess with people I care about, I'll get on your case.

Anyway, here's the colour code if anyone needs it:

Bullet; Green - Victim/Person who got harassed
Bullet; Red - Main asshole/Bitch/Douchebag/Motherfucker
:bulletyellow: - Secondary asshole/Bitch/Douchebag/Motherfucker
Bullet; Blue - Friendly person intervening
Bullet; Black - Nothing to do with event/Characters of certain things 

Take note that I also blocked out the name of characters and the medium they're from because I don't want people running after this obnoxious little snot with pitch-forks, as amusing a sight that might be. 

Regardless, I'm not a bully, and I do not sink to such levels. I'm just here to highlight atrocious behaviour that's embarrassing and disgusting - showing that we should not take such crap.

Anyway, as I mentioned before, a good friend of mine tends to also show screenshots of assholes being assholes and scumbags being scumbags. It's something she's done for a while. Yet, when she exposes one asshole, suddenly someone just comes in with this comment.

In order to better understand the situation, I'll give the screenshots that instigated the response.





Basically, my friend was having a conversation with somebody else about liking iced and sweet coffee, then some bigshot comes in and basically starts being a condescending shit by calling her a little girl.

Of course, the asshole thinks that by being a smart-ass by pretty much insulting my friend's intelligence by assessing that since she likes iced coffee that must mean she's never graduated!

:facepalm:

And, of course, when he gets called out for his condescending bullshit, he tries to make it off as "I was just a joke! You're too oversensitive."

No.

You should be more considerate.

First of all, this is the Internet: no way in hell is someone going to know you're doing "playful banter" unless they're your friend. We only use words, and even then, it's hard to know someone's true intentions without blatantly telling them or showing your face. So don't get surprised if someone gets irritated at you if you say something like that.

Two, if you really were joking, you'd say so. I've had that happen before with two different people in two pics involving a crack ship where they made comments that sounded like they were bashing the pairing. When I pointed it out to them, they both mentioned it was a joke. Hell, they both even apologized.

Three, you're trying to excuse your actions and not take responsibility by going "It was just a joke,". Additionally, you're trying to shift the blame on somebody else.

Yeah, I don't need to say how I think my friend had good reason to show this person for their behaviour.

Sadly, that just invited another asshole to come along. That asshole will be in red since he's the main star of this journal entry. :D



As my good friend mentions, she's exposed people before. So honestly, trying to call her out on this issue is pretty counter-productive. Especially if you've only looked at this one screenshot.

And I gave the points in the beginning why I think my friend is justified with her showing the screenshot. That, and she's pretty much done that before. Yet for some reason, this asshole comes along at this one screenshot and makes a fuss about it.

And trust me, things just devolve from there.



You know that? And yet you say she supplied only three?


Uhh...have you even tried to look into her profile or her gallery? Exposing people's actions aren't something she's new with.



And that's just one page.  My friend's got three pages of exposing people and their bullshittery, and you say she only has three comments?

"You TRULY didn't care about others' opinions, we wouldn't be having this conversation because you would not even have posted this."


1. Except, you're the one who posted first on her deviation. She has the right to respond to it, too. The whole conversation wouldn't have started if you hadn't decided to comment, too, you know.

2. Honestly, you were being rather rude in your first comment and quite self-righteous by lecturing her on how she should be acting. Hypocrite, much?

3. The screenshots above pointed out a jerk being a jerk who wouldn't take responsibility and try to pass his douchebaggery off as "It's just a joke" while simultaneously trying to shift the blame onto somebody else.

Though the asshole did acknowledge the other guy was being a douchebag, too, lecturing somebody about how they should react is not the way to get someone to calm down or see your line of reasoning. If anything, being a self-righteous and condescending asshole will just get you more problems and backlash.

Needless to say, I intervened. Because again - mess with someone I care about? Well, you'll have to deal with me, too. 

However, a friendly passerby also spoke out against the asshole.


Again, I doubt she's being an oversensitive drama queen if she's exposed assholes before. And once more, never checked out her gallery? You'd see she's done this before, and once more, there are a lot of assholes there, too.

And publicly shaming? 

Though my friend doesn't cover people's names or pictures like I do, honestly, I think you're the one making a mountain out of a molehill.

I mean, one deviant is showing screenshots of people being scumbags! ZOMG! That poor person she's exposing! Their life is ruined! They won't be able to go and get a job! They're dooooooooooomeeeeedd~!

:facepalm:

Anyway, heyo! The little social justice warrior then responded to yours truly~



So...you told off my friend for "writing in an essay" and when I told you you were doing the same thing, you handwave it as "of course I'll be doing it! I'm dissecting!" 

You're still writing a freaking essay, though, dude. =w=;b

Also, you may have expressed yourself in a succinct manner, but that does not mean to also express yourself in a condescending lecture.

And more self-righteous bullshit about how when someone slaps you, you slap them back. Nice exaggeration by comparing my friend's calling out to stabbing someone's eyeballs! :D I'm sure the people who did get hurt by that method and similarly traumatizing incidents will appreciate you comparing their pain to somebody simply exposing someone's douchebaggery.

Ohohoho, and that last paragraph just makes me chuckle. Because unlike this guy, I actually do digging. A lot of digging, too. ;3

I responded back, but because of how again, he's responding in essays, well, I'll just stack 'em here.




And pretty much this is where this guy shows even more of his scumbag colours which is actually the other half of the reason why this journal exists besides his condescending self-righteousness towards my friend.

The other is that this guy seriously thinks that autism and Aspergers is something that is detrimental and needs to be cured.

And that's right, that motherfucker compared autism and Aspergers to Stockholm syndrome.



There are so many things fucking wrong with that statement that I can get into an essay.

Needless to say, because I know a few people online with autism and Aspergers, and one of my closest guy friends also having Aspergers, this hit quite the Berserk Button on me. So I responded accordingly.

 

And this was the response I got.



For the first point: did you even read the rest of my previous comment? Common courtesy and respect is something that should be taught to children in kindergarten. How lovely is it that kindergarteners have more respect and even empathy than you?

I honestly don't know anymore if this guy is being serious with him not knowing how offensive he's being or he's just being a snide and condescending douchebag, but you know what?

As I mentioned in my last comment: you don't need to be "enlightened" about something like autism, Aspergers or even other conditions. It'd certainly help if you're willing to look it up and ask questions on what to do to better understand yourself, but still, you don't necessarily need to be so well researched.

Why? Because it involves empathy.

Empathy in that you're willing to understand and put yourself in another person's shoes. Empathy in that you show that you care for others - not just yourself. Empathy in that you know that as long as the other person feels happy from good things (like getting high in a test, overcoming an obstacle, getting better from an operation), you yourself are happy.

Empathy that you seem to lack.

Unless the person is being a complete asshole and using their condition as an excuse like Princess Elizabeth, Chris-chan and AkaiDalia's white knights, that sort of comparison and comment about autism and Aspergers is unneeded, unnecessary and outright offensive.

As I mentioned before, I did digging because this scumbag thinks that I'm apparently so dense I think he's an automatic bad guy because I just looked at his profile and assumed he's disgusting for just these little comments on his profile.


Well, I'll admit, I will start with the comments on your profile. And then I can get into the second dish of this journal.

So, I went on the scumbag's profile and saw that well...he's quite the shit-stirrer. There were a couple of people making comments - obviously not happy with this guy's "bluntness".



Sure that happened last year, however, it's not too long ago, either. That, and the really juicy incident actually happened this year. But, again, I'll come to that shortly.

However, that last comment there, pay attention to it, please.

Because though this victim makes a rather...questionable claim (seriously, a deviant has authority over airstrike?), the response from the douchebag...well, better to see it for yourself.



You know, there's no need to be so rude in your response to the guy. Even if you were being civil before, there's again, no need to outright call him an idiot or a moron considering how this guy didn't even start swearing at you until you called him an idiot, moron, a kid, and basically questioned his intelligence.

Not only is the asshole a self-righteous scumbag who actually compared autism and Aspergers to fucking Stockholm syndrome, he's also rude.

Anyway, this is where we reach the second most important topic of this journal. It started with this little stream of comments:


(Wow...)

Again, there's no need to be so rude and nasty in your replies. Really, it makes you look like a bitch. 

"Never have kids, and never adopt"? I certainly hope so in your case, anyway - considering how rude, self-righteous and disgusting you are. I shudder to think on what happens if, God forbid, you have a child who's on the autistic spectrum in any way.

But I was curious with what was going on there, so I dug deeper, and well, the guy who got angry at the scumbag was actually defending his friend who does have Aspergers. Hell, they made a Status Update about the incident where this shit-stirring asshole had commented on the poor dude's journal.



Naturally, I was even more intrigued yet also dreading on what I was going to see. Considering the responses he gave me in regards to people who have autism and Aspergers, I was uneasy on what I'd find with this guy actually commenting on the work of someone who does have Aspergers.

And well, what can I say?

It was an absolute shitstorm.


(Sadly, the original comment was hidden.)

What basically happened was that the victim made a journal about a character possibly having autism or Aspergers.

Now, I don't personally believe the theory, but it's plausible. And people are also free to make headcanons and theories on characters or media they like. Hell, I do that with some characters (*coughJosukeandLangcoughcough*), and people are free to disagree with it as long as they're respectful. We all have different opinions, after all.

Welp, I wished a certain person knew.



1. A theory can be wrong, yes. But they can also be right. Like how you yourself pointed out! 

2. This is a theory. And like the victim even said - the creator hasn't even confirmed it. So why are they wrong? Unless it's something that actually goes against the story like someone being alive but their corpse is seen and they're actually being buried, you have no room to say that somebody is wrong just because you don't agree.

3. Nice condescending tone there by calling this person a kid. Does that make you feel any bigger or better? Because guess what? I know children who are way politer, kinder, and show more empathy than you do.

4. Adding to (3), behaviour isn't determined by age, it's determined by maturity, which is determined by behaviour. And from the behaviour I'm seeing from you, you're acting like a condescending brat who thinks they know more than they really do.



Some more arguing, and that's when things devolve to shit.

Most people who do have mental illnesses don't even romanticize their mental illnesses. They either:
a) If they're a scumbag, they'll use it as an excuse (see Princess Elizabeth and Chris-chan)

or

b) Continue living on.

And by "gift" you don't even know the connotations of what this guy is using the word for. For all you know, maybe he's a Christian and he interprets it as just a gift from God and thus just continue on. Likewise, perhaps he was taught that there's nothing wrong with himself and to embrace who he is. Or perhaps he really does think it's a gift.

Either way, do you see this guy stirring the same shit like you are?

No. No, he fucking doesn't.

And you know, for somebody calling someone an oversensitive drama queen, you sure are the pot calling the kettle black. "Violently punching themselves over and over"? I may be wrong, but I'm pretty sure that happens only on the very severe end of the spectrum. From what I've observed, anyway, the people I know who have autism or Aspergers don't do that. Please, feel free to correct me, because my understanding of autism and Aspergers is certainly not the best. ^^; 

Oh, and romanticizing mental illnesses is making them "edgy" and "appealing" like how amateur FanFic writers and OC makers do. You can debate that by using the word "gift" is romanticizing, but again, we don't know the connotations of why the victim uses that word. For all we know, it might just be a coping mechanism or acknowledgement of accepting who he is.

Again, either way, you don't see the victim being an asshole to people and being all condescending.

But that's when another person cut in. And again, things just came to shit pretty quickly.




Once more, more condescending attitudes, and just being an all around asshole.

Again, who gives a flying fuck if a theory on fucking fictional characters is wrong to you?! You can disagree, but there's no need to be a rude asshole about it and insult the writer for having autism or Aspergers, either. For fuck's sake, man...



And it's clear you give just as much of a fuck to respond, too, you stupid twit.

Also, wow. Really? The condescension and bigotry is so freaking jumbo-sized with this one that the earth's oceans can't contain it!



And for fuck's sake, dude. You claim people should just stop responding to you, why don't you fucking do it yourself, you self-righteous, hypocritical, insulting and atrociously ignorant dumbfuck?!

Why should we cater to your needs and commands, anyway? If you're such an adult, then why don't you prove it and stop responding yourself?



Excuse me? Civil conversation?

Refer back to all the comments above, please, kthnx.

And how is this other person's fault to begin with? They were being quite civil, in my opinion, then you started sounding condescending and being rather bratty about how a theory on fictional character must be wrong.

The writer of the journal tried cutting in again to tell this asshole to go away, then somebody else came in.

But there you go. That's the shitstorm I uncovered and it only happened a month ago.

If people like this still exist even now, then geez, humanity's going down the shitter faster than Speedy Gonzalez can run.

And you know what's even sadder? The scumbag's own friend even commented on his profile that he should take it down a notch!


(You should know you've done shit when your own friend tries to tell you to mind your manners.)

And yet this guy still tries to justify himself! Wow.

You seriously think these people are upset and angry at you because you have differing opinions to them? You don't think it's because you're a condescending, snide, self-righteous, insulting and ignorant douchebag who's also a hypocrite?

Because again, if you're such an adult, why don't you fuck off instead of telling us to?

And you can't go "oh, I'm a bitter and vengeful person!" because again, that makes you sound like you're just trying to make up excuses for yourself.

Also, do I look like I give two shits? I myself can be really bitter and vengeful - hell, though it can be very difficult to get me angry or on my bad side, once you do, I can hold a very mean grudge on a person for a very long time (I'm talking years). Yet I certainly don't and never will use that as an excuse for my actions. Unlike you, I can own up when I'm wrong and accept responsibility - I've certainly been wrong in the past, and I've apologized for that, too.

So, in conclusion?

Go shove your self-righteous and condescending hypocrisy up your ass, and develop a sense of fucking empathy. As well as common sense and a brain since Google exists for a reason and you can answer your own questions for me to "enlighten you" about why your comparison of autism and Aspergers to Stockholm syndrome is fucking disgusting.

Well, this is the end of the entry. Damn, I haven't written an entry for this series in a long time, but with scumbags like that around, well, they exist.

It's honestly just a good thing that compared to other entries, this doesn't have like 20.

So, while there are assholes like this out there, just remember - for 1 asshole, there are 10 good people.

Also, remember that as long as you're not hurting other people, are being respectful and considerate to other's feelings, you do you.

Don't let anybody bring you down or tell you you're wrong, stupid, sick, "should be cured", or any bigoted bullshiterry like that.

I apologize if I sound a little incoherent, but as I mentioned in the beginning, I have a cold and I've also been coughing and hacking a lot. Stupid cold. =w=;;

Now, if you'll excuse me...


This is Hebigami, hope you guys have an awesome time, and peace out!

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95Jezzica's avatar
I must admit it was my first time seeing Autism and Aspberger compared with something like Stockholm Syndrom,
though it's not the first time I've seen people being less than understanding of what Autism and Asperger actually are and mean.
Perhaps I should be used to this by now, but you know... It gets really tiring.

It kind of mentally exhausts you, because even when you tell them how wrong they are they usually either deny it, or demand you to teach them why they are wrong.
Like... It's not my - or other people with Aspergers and/or Autism - duty to educate ignorant assholes who can't even bother to Google it up to at least get a better basic understanding of what they're talking about.
They obviously have internet, since they're on DA, so it shouldn't be so difficult to Google the damn things they try to have a opinion on.